Ba arz salam khedmat RAYIKA khanom (now, is this your real name? I havn't heard of it before) Yes, our friend Mahdi has a very soft and pure soul and that's exactly why I am worried about him!

OK, it's a nice nickname! Now, I am not sure if I can explain to you in a few sentenses why I don't want Mahdi jan to have a soft soul or be romantic. Perhaps Sedayedel or Mina can explain this to you better but I try anyway:

As he is still a bright young man, I don't want him to act like a poet or a philosopher or an intellectual or a nerd (all of these = a loser). I want him to underestand his worth and be self-confident. I want him to take an active lead in his life and do what all males of his age are entitled to do (=dating young and bright girls).

Rayika jan, your sentences above are all "logical" but instinct and not logic rules the dating and mating game among humans (you will most likely disagree with me from this sentense onward). In the pursuit of a mate, women prefer men who possess money, resources, power and high social status, while men tend to seek attractive, youthful women who will remain sexually faithful. These are all natural differences between the two sexes and are rooted in each sex's adaptive responses over thosands of years of human evolution.

Now, one area, however, which is common ground between men and women is in their ruthless use of deception, sexual display and denigration of rivals in the pursuit of a partner. Any man, who is soft and romantic, WILL fail the mating game I don't want any of my dear friends here to fail in the most important game of their lives. That's why I don't want them to be too romantic!

I hope I made myself clear. I request Mini, Sedayedel or Mosafere Kavir to further explain this if they have time.

cheers